Friday 31 March 2017



The filter we put on the photos was deliberately chosen. It's called Thermal Imaging. 

The subject is extra-marital affairs. Dalliances, romps, bits on the side. 


" Passion is lightning and thunder of the soul, crashing waves of love, torrential lust, lava-hot kisses, body quaking, directed by storms of the heart. " 
~Terri Guillemets, "Blank pages of an already filled journal," 2011


I have said it before on my blog : I am no saint. (I am a romantic. ) However, I will say two things I know for sure. The seven year itch is a real thing. Also the truth is that no matter how romantically you paint it, the outcome of affairs is always hurt , and guilt, for parties affected. 

To compile this post, I read alot, including about twenty-first century dalliances that start on extramarital affair hookup sites. (By the way, that sounds more efficient and robotic than thrilling! Whatever happened to sideways looks across a crowded room? ) With all my research , however, I still believe what I said at the beginning - affairs are bad news, especially if you are a child of one of the participants. They are alot of fun, for the couple on heat, until they aren't .

There are s@xual affairs,  emotional affairs, and ones with both. They are all just as devestating for the betrayed party, if /when they find out. 


“well, there were three of us in this marriage, so it was a bit crowded. "
-Diana, Princess of Wales

― Cathy Lowne, Speeches that changed the world.

Camilla Parker -Bowles below, as a young woman. She was considered not virginal enough to marry Prince Charles, but that didn't stop her. She came from a family of unfaithful women, including a mistress of King Edward, and a mistress of Vita Sackville West. I suppose it was normal in her world.

Prince Charles' Pickup lines:

 "Wanna hold the royal scepter?"
"If you think my ears are big..."
 "Come upstairs with me and I'll make you the Princess of Wails." 
"Let's put the bucking in Buckingham Palace." 


"A man having an extra-marital affair has a mistress. What does a married woman, under the same (damaging) circumstances have?"

Jessie Churchill, East Providence, USA
  • "A mattress?"

    Bruno Metz, Strasbourg, France

  • Not a matresss -since a mistress is something between a mister and a mattress! "

    Ian Hymes, Chester, UK

    taken from


How do you make your wife scream while having s@x?
Call her and tell her.



How do you feel

I'm lonely
What do you think
Can't take it all
What ya gonna do
Gonna live my life

So slide over here
And give me a moment
Your moves are so raw
I've got to let you know
I've got to let you know
You're one of my kind

I need you tonight
'Cause I'm not sleeping
There's something about you girl
That makes me sweat"


Michael Hutchence's 
" private life was often reported in the Australian and international press, with a string of love affairs with prominent actresses, models and singers. Hutchence's relationship with UK television presenter Paula Yates began while she was married to musician and Live Aid organiser Bob Geldolf. They divorced in 1996. During July of the same year, Hutchence and Yates had a daughter, Heavenly Hiraani Tiger Lily.

On the morning of 22 November 1997, Hutchence was found dead in his hotel room in Sydney. His death was reported by the New South Wales Coroner to be the result of suicide. In 2000, Yates died of a heroin overdose. The couple's daughter was placed in Geldof's custody with her half-sisters." Wikipedia

Q.Why did Paula Yates leave Bob Geldof for Michael Hutchence?

A. Because Michael was well hung.




Madame de Pompadour , mistress of Louis the 15 th of France was so smoking hot , cultured, and intelligent, she was an advisor to the king. She even featured in an episode of Dr Who, (SPOILER ALERT close your eyes , ) and he fell in love with her! Well, who wouldn't!



A husband and wife are laying in their bed...

Wife: If I die will you have another woman in this bed?
Husband: Yeah.
Wife: Will you marry her?
Husband: Maybe.
Wife: Will you let her use my golf clubs?
Husband: Of course not.
Wife: Why not?
Husband: She's left-handed.





Monica Lewinski 's potential was thwarted by one mistake. After it, she never had the successful career she should have had. 

Monica  had a famous affair with Bill Clinton in the Oval Office while he was President of the United States. There was a big media and official  houha about it, even though other Presidents before him had been unfaithful,  Jack Kennedy being an example. They do say power is a strong aphrodisiac.


Q. What was Lewinsky's position at the white house? 

1. Head intern.
2. Under secretary
3. Missionary



" Studies have found that men are more likely to engage in extramarital sex if they are unsatisfied sexually, while women are more likely to engage in (extramarital) sex if they are unsatisfied emotionally.  

Kimmel and Van Der Veen found that sexual satisfaction may be more important to husbands and that wives are more concerned with compatibility with their partners.  Studies suggest that individuals who can separate concepts of sex and love are more likely to accept situations where infidelity occurs.  One study done by Roscoe, Cavanaugh, & Kennedy found that women indicated relationship dissatisfaction as the number one reason for infidelity, whereas men reported a lack of communication, understanding, and sexual incompatibility. 

Glass & Wright also found that men and women who are involved in both sexual and emotional infidelities reported being the most dissatisfied in their relationships than those who engaged in either sexual or emotional infidelity alone.  In general, marital dissatisfaction overall is the number one reason often reported for infidelity for both sexes. 

 It is important to note that there are many other factors that increase the likelihood of anyone engaging in infidelity.  Individuals exhibiting sexually permissive attitudes and those who have had a high number of past sexual relationships are also more likely to engage in infidelity.  Other factors such as being well educated, living in an urban centre, being less religious, having a liberal ideology and values, having more opportunities to meet potential partners, and being older affected the likelihood of one being involved in an extramarital affair. ".    Wikipedia 

Some serial philanderers should just never get married at all, if they can't control themselves. 



ELIZABETH TAYLOR AND RICHARD BURTON - one of those office romances.

Elizabeth and Richard’s affair caused a huge sensation. Both were already married – she to her fourth husband Eddie Fisher, who she had famously ‘stolen’ from Debbie Reynolds. The Vatican condemned their union, calling it ‘erotic vagrancy’, and the world’s press closely monitored their relationship from then on.

‘Richard and I had an incredible chemistry together. We couldn’t get enough of each other,’ Elizabeth once said. "

Francesca Rice.



A wealthy man was having an affair with an Italian woman for a few years.  One night, during one of their rendezvous, she confided in him that she was pregnant. To avoid divorce, he paid her a large sum of money if she would return to Italy to have the child. If she stayed in Italy, he would also provide child support until the child turned 18.

She agreed, but wondered how he would know when the baby was born. To keep it discrete, he told her to mail him a post card, and write "Spaghetti" on the back. He would then arrange for child support. One day, about 9 months later, he came home to his confused wife. "Honey," she said, "you received a very strange post card today."  
"Oh, just give it to me and I'll explain it later," he said. The wife obeyed, and watched as her husband read the card, turned white, and fainted.

On the card was written: "Spaghetti, Spaghetti, Spaghetti. Two with meatballs, one without."

These last two songs come as a sordid pair. I put them last because so much romance seems to be missing from music these days. They say it how it is. 
Warning, explicit language

THE WIFE REACTS (also explicit language):

"Aight, that's it, what's wrong?
I'm tired, sick and tired of the same thing over and over again
Come on, girlfriend, talk to me
I'm takin' the Porche, I'm takin' the house, I'm takin' the kids
He can have the Volvo but that damn Jag is mine
Oh, sure, girlfriend, oh, sure, sure"

Lady Saw -Son of a b*tch, lyrics.

“Fish in another man's pond and you will catch crabs.” 


Fizzfan said...

Thanks for the Michael Hutchins video. I loved that track! Some people are just born to be desired and he definitely fits the bill. Jagger oozed the same kind of vibe, especially when he was young. I'd imagine if you're that gorgeous it's pretty difficult not to play to your strengths:) Mind you, things aren't always as perfect as they seem on the surface, he was actually pretty messed up after his skull was fractured in a random attack five years before he died. It resulted in him losing all sense of taste and smell which led to him being really depressed.

I well remember the TV programme him and Paula Yates met on. It was a music show called The Tube and she used to interview celebs on a bed. It was clear there was a real spark between them and I guess it tragically ended up burning them both out.
Just as tragic was one of her children's deaths through an overdose, Peaches Geldoff.

Paula had another strange twist in her life when she discovered that her biological Father was in fact a friend of her Fathers. A journalist announced it in a eulogy at the biological Fathers funeral!

Some people have a lot of upheaval in their lives so I don't judge behaviours too much. Besides, until you walk a long way in someone else's shoes, you never really know how steady on your feet you'd remain.

Running on empty said...

When Peaches died I think it really cemented that whole extended family as tragic.

Live hard, die young.

Fizzfan said...

Yeah, some people seem to be able to put the brakes on and others get lost forever. Does tend to run in families though.
Repeating patterns of behaviour I suppose.

The other thing is luck. Some people have really close scrapes with drug overdoses but come out of long term abuse still rocking on into old age.
Maybe they just have stronger physical constitutions?

Running on empty said...

The drugs , like pot, are much stronger now, cause bad side effects, like schizophrenia, compared to the weaker stuff from the 60 s. Alot of stronger drugs today have poisons like cleaning products or any old crud in them.

Fizzfan said...

Begs the eternal question should drugs be legalised to make them 'safer'.

Synthetically grown weed is called Skunk in this country and it has spawned lots of bad long term side effects. Psychosis etc.

I don't know how I feel about legalising it though as it's almost like giving it the thumbs up.
However, medically I definitely think it should be available for the treatment of some illnesses like MS.

Running on empty said...

Prescription drugs are legal. They still cause overdoses and dependency. Alcohol is the same.
Perhaps society needs to address the unhappiness at the core of addiction, or put money into gene research into addictive traits. As long as governments make tax dollars from alcohol and gambling, it seems unlikely .

Yes to legalisation for medical conditions.